How to get motivation to Do Things You Don’t Want to Do
All of us have some tasks we don’t want to do.
Maybe we find them boring, time consuming or annoying. But still …. we have to do them. So how do you get motivated in these types of situations?
You’ve got to make a very uncomfortable phone call, you’ve got to do chores you don’t like, you have to do your administration.
You’re going to learn to do what you don’t want to do and to do it as first thing.
When you do it first, you actually start to feel very good with yourself all day because you’ve done it first. And when you delay it and put it off, it actually stops you from feeling good. It has the opposite effect, that feeling of dismay will stay with you.
When you give yourself a day off, you won’t think, “Oh, I should be doing that work.”
When you do what you don’t really want to do, when you take a day off, you’ve earned it. You can really enjoy it. You don’t feel guilty thinking “I should be doing this, I should’ve done that.”
The more you do what you don’t want to do first, the more you can absolutely enjoy your down time. You’ve really earned that time. You can have hours off and days off because you have earned it .
The more you do it, the easier it is. The easier it is the more you do it. And soon this isn’t even what you do, it is so much who you are. This will become a powerful, permanent part of who you are. It impresses you, it impresses people around you. Motivation does not appear until you begin, and then it appears. And every day you motivate yourself, you inspire yourself. And every day you feel so much better.
And you can even see yourself in your imagination going through that list and crossing things out because these are things you used to avoid. These are things you used to not pay attention to, no more. You pay attention, the more you do it, the easier it is. The easier it is, the more you do it.
You start doing first what you don’t want to do and then it just becomes easy.
When you say to yourself, “I hate doing that,” it kind of becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Write out a list with everything that you think you really dislike. Is it the gym? Is it doing your administration? Is it cleaning the house? Is it asking for any kind of help? Is it having to confront someone? Is it taking a risk? Start with the thing you tell yourself you hate the most, whatever is on that list is your least favorite, that is what you start with. Do that first. And even as you think about it, I want you to tell yourself, “I feel great when I do that first. Wow. Instead of feeling bad all day because I’m ignoring it and not even opening that e-mail, I go straight to it.
But you’re also going to start telling yourself, “When I clean my house, when I do my administration, when I open those bills, when I call the person I’m avoiding, I feel amazing. And I feel amazing all day because I am now taking on the habits of a winner.” That’s your homework.
Do that, and then you can pick another one because when you do this, this is becoming who you are. And remember, you don’t have to be perfect.